I believe anything that happens in my stream, including private shows, should be something both the user and I want to do. That said, requests or payments by themselves won't get me to do sexual stuff - it's about how we feel about each other. You are welcome to make me your listener in private shows. If you've initiated a private show without having proper expectations and we both realize that the show isn't going to serve our interests, then refunding you will be an option.